The thing with travel…

As my flight bounces onto the runway in Melbourne and glides past the huge metal birds waiting at the airport – ready to take their passengers to new destinations and new experiences, I am reminded about why I love to travel.Exploring new cultures and new landscapes brings a gratitude and a self awareness that you can’t achieve by staying in your comfort zone. 

The thing with travel is that although sometimes it’s hard, it’s always when we learn the most about ourselves. Travel brings challenges. It brings weather events, flight delays, strange food, new cultures, lack of sleep and sometimes language barriers.

All these experiences add to our metal as a human. They test us and show us what we are made of.  They show how we cope in a stressful situation. It gives a good dose of grateful when we see people happily living their lives beside a dusty railway line in a tin shanty, although they may have very little. It tests our pre-conceived ideas about who, what, why and when and challenges some of our strongest beliefs. 

It’s when this shift occurs that the learning and self awareness happens. 

Now. Let me explain to you that I am an ENFP in Myers Briggs personality so this may not all ring true for you. This is the world according to Emma. It’s a world of positivity and optimism, enthusiasm and energy, of open mindedness and self exploration. Of new experiences and opportunities, of constant change and learning. 

I’m always happy for my beliefs to be challenged and changed. And this happens constantly when I travel. 

And that is the thing with travel. (For me) ☺️

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Comfort zones

Wow! What a night at the #verse showcase. Today I’m tired but grateful to have been able to bring loveintimo to the runway with some amazing girls who embraced their bodies – wobbly bits and all. Life is about taking chances and letting go of the doubts and fear. It’s about being in the moment and experiencing the adrenaline that flows though your body when you get out of your comfort zone. 

Skewed vision

Isnt it funny? Have you ever had poor body confidence? I’ve spent most of my life with it. 

Its only after finding intimo that I can see my curves clearly and really know that I’m ok. As a bra fitter, we see many shapes and sizes and every single woman we meet is unhappy with her figure. Crazy that we spend so much time wishing we were something else huh?

I found this photo in my Facebook news feed this morning. I remember at the time thinking that I was so fat. (We are so unkind to ourselves aren’t we)

Now I look back I can see I’m completely normal with lovely curves and have been for most of my life (I do quite like food. Actually I love it).

But I’m a normal curvy girl. Normal. 

Why do we spend so much time and energy.  We’d be far better off embracing who we are and working on our self awareness.   

Let it go. Just saying. 

👙☺️

The problem with bras

Hands up if you love bra shopping!

If you’re one of the few who put your hands up, then you probably need to contact me about doing what I do.

However for the majority of us the biggest issue with trying to find a bra that fits, in my opinion is the fact that a 14d isn’t always a 14d. The style, the shape of the wire, and the fabric all make a huge difference to the fit and whether not it suits your body shape.

And that’s the challenge isn’t it?

Not all bras are created equal. But you dig through the wash for that ONE bra that fits like a glove. 

That’s my job. I help women find THAT bra. That bra that you need to find in the bottom of the washing basket and wear again and again because it’s the only one you don’t want to feed the dog at the end of the day. 

A bra fitter knows how the wires sit, what the height of the bridge will do and generally ask great questions about you to discover what you like.  

Get fitted ladies. It makes the world of difference. Intimo

When your kid is wise

This is my beautiful daughter – when I think about what the bump off effects of being a bra fitter have been on both of us it brings tears to my eyes. Body confidence, self worth and a knowledge that you’re perfect as you are. ☺️She is so wise, so supportive and is my greatest advocate. I’ve watched her confidence grow as she approaches adulthood, fanned by the flames of my passion for helping women and embracing your authenticity. What an amazing thing #mybrabusiness #loveintimo #strive

Authenticity

authenticity

 

Over the last few days, I have been pondering authenticity.

Its my thing. It ticks my values boxes.

The thing that set me free. Released my masks. Authenticity is so important in most walks of life, but for now I’m thinking about how it transfers into the sales world because of a little chat with a friend.

She argued with me that if you’re in “sales” “you look for the weak spot” and then go in for the kill.  Now this touched a rather deep nerve of mine, because I have always considered sales a a helping process, an honest process, rather than stitching someone up.

Option 1 is about building a relationship and trust. Option 2 is a narrow minded, short term way to run a business. Death by sales.

Sales IS about HELPING. Its about identifying a need and helping someone fill that need. Honestly and with integrity.

Now if I wanted a high turnover business with a limited life span, I could go down the track of my friends thoughts, and burn my customers by treating them like a number, but why would I want to do that? Make people feel taken advantage of? Make them feel like they have been “had”. Yeah, no. It’s possible she’s jaded 😉

Why wouldn’t I take the time to do the right thing by people, which in turn builds mutual trust and respect. Which in turn builds a long term booming business. With referrals and repeat customers. That’s a no-brainer in my eyes.

When i ask good questions of the person I’m trying to help, she feels heard, I gain knowledge about how I can best be of service to her and our relationship deepens, as I am able to help her and fill a need she has. This is called Qualification and I believe its the singular most important step in the taught sales process. With this step done well,  trust grows, and over time and we develop a friendship, and a mutual understanding.

Anyway – i digress.  Where does authenticity come in?  Authenticity comes into play from the very first second we meet someone. When we are comfortable in ourselves and authentically present and listening to others, we can take the time to hear properly. For one – I think our “bullshit radars” work pretty well in general don’t they? We can pick if someone isn’t being “themselves”.

We can take stock of their needs and wants, and best help them  – if our product matches their need. (If it doesn’t and you try to push it on them – its called selling). No body wants to be sold to. Do you like being “sold” to? I definitely don’t. But I love being helped!

Ways to connect with your authenticity:

  1. Determine your values. What are some words that describe you? Whats important to you?
  2. Write a vision based on your values. Google the Holstee Manifesto – this is my take on authenticity. Yours, of course will be different.
  3. Invest in personal growth. Learn.
  4. Do you love what you do? Reassess your career path if you don’t LOVE it
  5. Accept yourself. You are you. Dr Seuss is a brilliant dude.
  6. Are you showing others what is really inside? Why?
  7. When you make decisions, make them based around your authenticity and values.
  8. Make a list of a few activities you love.
  9. Make a list of 5 goals you want to achieve
  10. Remember your values can change – anytime. They are not set in stone.

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Choose your values, live with integrity, truth and honesty, because by following this true north you can be a happier you. Don’t let your role in life define who you are, take action to become your authentic self.

Does your work match your values? Are they aligned?   If not make the change! Look out for values that steal your time – allow time for the ones that bring out your authenticity and make you happy.

 

Our personal strengths are part of what makes us unique as individuals, and part of the value we offer to the world around us.

Possible Values List – not complete just some ideas.

  • Accomplishment
  • Authenticity
  • Balance
  • Beauty
  • Boldness
  • Calm
  • Community
  • Compassion
  • Confidence
  • Contribution
  • Courage
  • Creativity
  • Determination
  • Excellence
  • Freedom
  • Friendship
  • Family
  • Fun
  • Growth
  • Happiness
  • Harmony
  • Health
  • Honesty
  • Independence
  • Integrity
  • Intuition
  • Joy
  • Kindness
  • Learning
  • Listening
  • Love
  • Loyalty
  • Optimism
  • Orderliness
  • Passion
  • Patience
  • Peace
  • Productivity
  • Respect
  • Self-Esteem
  • Service
  • Simplicity
  • Spirituality
  • Strength
  • Thankfulness
  • Tradition
  • Trust
  • Understanding
  • Wisdom

love xx,  Emma

 

Grateful and Humbled

Tonight I reflect on how fantastic Intimo has been for me and my family. 5 years ago I was afraid to get fitted for a bra. I was so down on my body and really embarrassed about my wobbly bits (we all have them). Well not today!…..

Finding Intimo really has enabled me to share that gift with so many women and to make a huge impact on how they feel about themselves.

I want to take the time to thank all you girls – my/our Intimo Brand Ambassadors, who have introduced me and our amazing bras to your friends, knowing that it was something so much more than bras and undies. You all know who you are. xx

I didn’t realize 5 years ago that I held a very special gift in my hands. And man, how powerful that gift was!

Thank you Sue and thank you Intimo Lingerie. I am forever grateful to have been given the opportunity to touch so many lives. ‪#‎loveintimo‬ ‪#‎bestdecisionever‬

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Choosing your reaction

In that short little gap between the event (stimulus) and your reaction, you have the ability to choose. Choose the way you will respond to the event. 

The gap. That little millisecond where you decide subconsciously how you will react.

Trouble is, our reaction is based on our history, culture, past perceptions, hurts, grievances or wins. And often it’s an emotional reaction which we feel we have no control over. 

We base our reaction on our own unique view of the world. And that’s based on our relationships, current dilemmas, excitements. And to make it harder again so does everyone else!! Everyone has their own history they are basing their reactions on. 

Ever use the phrase ‘it pushed my button’ to justify your explosive reaction to someone or something? Well, it did stick it’s finger in your sensitive spot didn’t it? 

And here is the challenge. Because we are emotional about what ever just caused our reaction we don’t make a good decision 9 times out of 10. 

I’m going to suggest that if you find yourself reacting to certain things, take time to breathe and choose your reaction. Choose it based on the actual circumstances rather than an emotional response. Accept responsibility for your reaction. Don’t assume they were out to hurt you. 

My ex step-son used to provoke the highest emotional reactions in me. If I change that way of thinking and turn it around to accept responsibility, it sounds more like this. I was continually challenged by my stepson. I chose to react explosively. Now, the little voice in my head wants to blame him, but I know deep down my reaction was an accumulation of events and challenges which stopped me from seeing the situation with clarity. One step outside and we can see it in more focus. Just like when we hear other people’s challenges. It seems so simple to us.

Easier when you’re  not in it. Yes?

Here is a great video about how blind we are to our own circumstances. Enjoy 🙂

What do you need to do to be capable of choosing your reaction?  

#mindthegap

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Photo by Rae 🙂

Leading from the front. 

Today as I debrief from doing the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People  course again for the third time, I will be thinking about my goals, my dreams and revisiting my vision board. 

What is your goal? Your why? It needs to be strong enough to get you through the challenges. This is my why, my beautiful little girl. She deserves to believe that she can be/do anything she wants to be. I will lead. 

What’s yours?

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